What kind of family do you live in and what is good about this family model?
I am a sperm donor for a lesbian couple. The beauty of being a sperm donor is that you can fulfill lesbian women’s desire to start a family with children. Man does something good.
What was your personal stumbling block?
One difficulty was that there was not enough detail in advance about the
constellation, the role of the sperm donor, also for the development of the
Children, was spoken. At the latest such clarification would be important
had been after two boys were born to whom a male
caregiver is probably good for their development. Even if the as
male reference person selected not the sperm donor and
but this is known to the children as their producer, the children can
have the desire to be close to their “father”. (Question from one of the boys:
“Are you actually my father?”) Part of that difficulty is,
that I also have a mother who, with all consciousness and with
willing acceptance of the special constellation nevertheless also
Feelings of affection for the children can not prevent and this
would like to see more often than once every few years. However, this seems to be of
not to be wanted by the mothers, because opportunities that my
Mother meets the children, there would have been and would be enough.
Here, no consideration is given to the feelings of those without whom the
family would not have come about. That is a pity. All in all
The aim is to help the seed donor to continue to know the family.
and should also be known to the family and children, a
to play an appreciative role. This means that the dynamics of a
such relationship and also to be attentive and open-minded
towards his desires.
How did you overcome the stumbling block?
So far, these difficulties have not been overcome. I would like to see us do mediation to clarify our roles.