Monday evening, 7:30 p.m.: Annika actually still has the fork in her hand and yet the phone is already to her ear. Nino is just in bed and the common TV evening is near – nevertheless she phones me and tells me her story.
Annika is not just Annika, it also includes Nadin, her wife, and Nino, her foster son. Together they are 34, 31 and 2 years old and live in Hamburg. They are a family but they are missing someone to complete this family. At first, she and her wife just wanted a sperm-only donor.
Future father to have fixed role
Nino, her foster son, however, had suddenly made her rethink. As soon as the fathers of his friends show up, Nino sticks to them, Annika tells us. They now want a father for another child. Or even two. A male caregiver who plays a permanent role in the child’s life. And this person should also have a firm place in Nino’s life, that is particularly important to them, Nino should not take a back seat in their family constellation.
Wish list: a pregnant belly for Christmas
“Eye color, height, hair color don’t matter,” Annika says. Rather, it is the right “chemistry” that matters to her. It speaks of values and ethical ideas. “Not totally stupid, please,” Annika still says and laughs. “He just has to fit in with us!”. Once it would have been quite strange, a bit like a blind date. The other person felt the same way. However, they would not have found each other. She compares the search for a father with the search for a partner, and it seems more than understandable that the first “date” is not the big draw. “Life-threatening hereditary diseases rather not, but something like lactose intolerance is not a problem” she adds. At any rate, for next Christmas she would very much like to have a pregnant belly or even already the longed-for offspring. “I’m a family person,” she says. Then one, two, three or four pairs of grandparents might also sit under the tree.
Annika and Nadin are on Familyship as EinGeschwisterchen (only accessible for logged in users).
